As a coach, I’ve realized one big truth: Empowerment is all about focusing on what you can control and waving goodbye to what you can’t. Sounds simple, right? Except… life throws us these sneaky little things called blocks that can make it tricky.
First up, we’ve got the external blocks—stuff like office drama, limited resources, unexpected health hiccups, or team dynamics that could rival a reality TV show. And let’s not forget the personal ones: family responsibilities or trying to find more hours in the day (spoiler: there aren’t any). The thing is, we can’t always control these external obstacles.
But then there are the internal blocks, and here’s the kicker: these come from within, and the good news is, we can do something about them. It’s the stuff we tell ourselves, the assumptions we make, and how we interpret what happens around us. These include Internal Narratives, Assumptions, Interpretations, and Limiting Beliefs.
Let’s break them down
Internal Narrative: Ever caught yourself thinking, “I’m not good enough” or “What’s the point, I’ll just fail”? Ugh, that’s your internal narrative chiming in with its (not-so-helpful) two cents again. It’s like having a tiny critic living in your head who just loves to point out every little flaw instead of cheering you on.
Here’s something to ponder: What stories are you constantly telling yourself that might be keeping you stuck? And what would happen if you flipped the script to focus on all the amazing things you’re capable of?
To rewrite these pesky narratives, start small. The next time you catch yourself in the act of self-doubt, pause. Swap that thought for one that lifts you up—like, “I may not be perfect, but I’m learning and improving every day.” Over time, those positive thoughts will start to feel more natural, like second nature.
And hey, be kind to yourself during the process. Changing your mindset is a journey, not a snap-your-fingers kind of magic. But with a little patience and practice, you can quiet that inner critic and let your inner cheerleader take the mic.
Assumptions: We all make assumptions—it’s like our brains are on autopilot, jumping to conclusions without asking us first. Maybe it’s thoughts like, “I’m not leadership material” or “Everyone’s going to think I’m a total fraud.” Sound familiar? These sneaky little fears love to throw on a disguise and pass themselves off as facts.
So, let’s get real: What assumptions might be holding you back at work and stopping you from crushing it professionally? On the personal side, are there beliefs about yourself or your relationships that are keeping you stuck? And, just in general—what assumptions have been lurking lately that could use a good, hard reality check?
Here’s a quick hack: Write down the assumption that’s tripping you up. Then give it a once-over—is it really based on facts, or is it just your inner fear talking? Nine times out of ten, the truth is way kinder than we give it credit for. Why not flip the script and see what’s possible?
Interpretations: Life happens, and then our brains go into overdrive deciding what it all means. Didn’t hear back from someone? Suddenly, it’s “I must have done something wrong.” Missed an opportunity? Maybe it’s “That probably wasn’t my best move.” Sound familiar? These snap interpretations can really mess with your vibe—and unnecessarily so!
Here’s a thought: When something doesn’t go your way, what’s your knee-jerk interpretation? Is it the worst-case scenario, or could there be another story? Maybe they’re busy, or perhaps that missed opportunity wasn’t meant for you anyway (and something better is just around the corner).
Next time you feel the stress creeping in, hit pause and come up with three alternative explanations for the situation. Sure, it takes a little practice, but you might be surprised by how often those kinder, more logical interpretations are closer to the truth. And hey, even if they’re not, doesn’t it feel way better to go easy on yourself?
Limiting Beliefs: Ah, limiting beliefs—the little voices that whisper, “You’re just not the type of person who can succeed” or “Let’s be real, you’ll never get there.” Ugh, they love to keep us stuck, don’t they? The thing is, these beliefs might feel like hard truths, but here’s the good news: you don’t have to let them rule your life.
Ask yourself: What belief are you holding onto that feels like it’s set in stone? Now, imagine what your life might look like if you let it go. Would you take more chances? Chase after that big dream?
To loosen the grip of these beliefs, start by reflecting on times you proved yourself wrong—like when you tackled something you thought you couldn’t, and it turned out great. Writing these moments down (yep, journaling is your friend!) helps you notice the patterns and remind yourself of what you can do. The more you see those wins, the quieter those pesky gremlins get. It’s not about silencing them overnight—it’s about proving them wrong, one step at a time.
The Power of Reframing Your Mindset
Overcoming internal blocks begins with recognizing them for what they are—obstacles we have the power to challenge and change. By reframing your narratives, questioning assumptions, and loosening the grip of limiting beliefs, you open the door to new possibilities and lasting growth.
So, Where Does Coaching Come In?
Here’s the deal: You don’t have to tackle these blocks on your own. Coaching is like having a cheerleader, strategist, and accountability partner rolled into one. Coaches can help you spot your internal blocks, challenge them, and come up with game plans that are tailored just for you.
The thing is, internal blocks are within your control. By working through your Internal Narratives, Assumptions, Interpretations, and Limiting Beliefs, you give yourself the freedom to grow. So, what’s the first block you’re ready to tackle? Let’s do it together. The future-you will thank you!
